… how not to listen to the voice in your head? Here at the Waukegan Public Library, the staff has been undergoing a series of trainings on compassion. So far, we have focused on defining compassion and how to have compassion for each other. This month, the focus was on having compassion on ourselves. We have asked each other (and ourselves), “How are you doing?” wanting and receiving REAL answers. If you are interested in this topic, you really need to read Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life. I first learned about Byron Katie from another co-worker (Thank you, thank you; you know who you are!) and checked out one of her books from our library. Before you read any further, I am going to be talking about the voice in my head with some candor. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, choose another book from our excellent review blog.
I don’t know about you, but the voice in my head can be so MEAN. It says mean things about my friends and family. It says mean things about me. It says mean things about anything it can think of. Here’s the good news I have recently learned: the voice in my head is NOT me. I am NOT mean. I’m only mean if I believe the mean things that voice says and let it be me. Simple, right? Not so simple. I need some structure, some tools, and that’s what I get from reading books by Byron Katie. She teaches you to listen to that voice and ask four questions about what it says. Seriously, it’s that easy. Don’t have time for the book? Start with her website: http://www.thework.com/index.php Have some compassion for yourself! (Your family will appreciate it, too, I promise!)
Katie’s husband, Stephen Mitchell, co-writes with her, and it makes for a pleasant read with many great examples. I highly recommend starting with this book. If you like it, you may also like some of my other “friends,” Eckhart Tolle, Thich Nhat Hanh and Geneen Roth.
Reviewed by Heidi (staff)